It was times like this that Dee regretted that sliding doors made of paper
and would did not make a satisfying slamming noise. The past four years
that she had been friends with Manchu he had never exhibited this kind of
thought pattern or behavior. Since when had he decided that women were there
to serve men? And whom had he learned this from? Certainly not from Jiaoshu
or Quon Wing. Both men had always shown respect to any and all women, be
it a servant or a loved one. She hadn't been home more than ten minutes
when there came a soft knock on her door.
{Yes?} she asked.
{Xiaohu? Is everything ok? May I come in?} Li Rong asked, sliding the door
open a few inches.
{Please,} Dee replied, opening the door to let the woman in.
Li Rong's belly was just getting round enough to show and the woman took
pleasure in wearing clothing to accentuate her swelling abdomen. Now the
woman flowed into the room in a rose colored robe tied above the swell of
her belly. Her long black hair was tied up in a high bun and held in place
with enameled rose clips. With natural grace, Li Rong sat herself in one
of the two chairs at Dee's desk.
"Come, sit child," she said, reverting to English.
Dee sat in the opposite chair, folding her hands in her lap. Silently she
waited for the woman to announce the reason for her visit.
"I hear there was an argument between you and Manchu in the market. What
was it about?"
"He's being an impossible boy! What he said to me was uncalled for and just
plain rude," Dee said, scowling.
"So I've heard. But what did he say, exactly, that could make you so angry
with him? Certainly it was not that bad," Li Rong said, placing a hand over
Dee's folded hands.
"But it was! He was telling me that Jiaoshu and Quon Wing were only having
me do chores and cook to train me to be a wife when I'm older. He said they
were just letting me play at being a warrior! Ping said when a woman is
older she just needs to take care of her husband and give him children.
Then he told me that I needed to be controlled and he was going to find
someone in the market to buy me."
Li Rong suppressed a smile at the last. Manchu definitely was being a boy
and these two were at the right age to "hate" the opposite sex. Still it
worried her about where Manchu was getting these ideas. Neither her husband
nor Jiaoshu would teach a child such a thing. Both men always taught their
students to respect each other, male or female, as well as a healthy respect
for women in general.
"I see," she finally said after a moment's silence. "I must find out where
Manchu is getting these ideas from and put a stop to it. Quon Wing is speaking
to him about what happened. However, you will both be serving punishment
for fighting. No excuses, Xiaohu!" Li Rong added sharply before Dee could
defend herself. "Though Manchu is wrong on his ideas, you should have come
to us with this instead of knocking him over to fight. Please be a good
girl and do your punishment without argument. I know it is hard when you
feel so much in the right, my dear, but you must learn patience."
Dee nodded staring down at her hands and blinking back tears at the injustice
of it all.
Tilting the girl's chin up, Li Rong smiled at her. "Never forget, Dee Lemma,
that a woman will always hold a greater power over a man. She will always
use her head before she will use her hands to fight her point. It also doesn't
hurt that the man who will love you will be in awe of you and all you can
do. I know Manchu said you must do this for a man because it is a woman's
job. But I don't do these things for Quon Wing because it is my duty. I
do these things for him because I love him and wish his life to have a few
less worries in it. Do you understand, child?"
She thought this over for a minute, then said, "I think so, Li."
Again the woman smiled at the little girl. "If you do not fully understand
now, you will one day. Any man who wins your heart will be a lucky one,
I can tell." Giving Dee's cheek a loving pat, Li Rong stood and left the
girl's room. As she slid the door closed behind her, Li Rong had a final
thought on the matter. Any man who wins her heart will have to be very
special and able to handle her spirit.
For a while Dee simply stared out the window thinking on what Li Rong had
told her. By the time Quon Wing knocked at her door to collect her for her
punishment, Dee had come to a conclusion: A man needed a woman in his life
far more often than a woman needed a man. Yet the loving relationships she
saw between Jiaoshu and Li Mei and Quon Wing and Li Rong proved to her that
there could be a healthy balance with the right pairing. As Dee and Manchu
ran back and forth across the courtyard with buckets of water, Dee decided
that she wanted any relationship she entered to be as mutually rewarding
as her teachers had.
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